So many thoughts are running through my head as I begin the last year in my twenties. Although it does not feel as monumental as I always thought it would, (30 used to be OLD in my mind, ha!) there are still some things that I want to continually remind myself of as I prepare to enter my thirties.
Contrary to popular belief, no-one is going to die if you can’t do all the things. There just aren’t enough hours in the day to have the house spotless, feed everyone more than once, play with kids, teach kids, build in rest, write, or feed yourself more than once so give yourself permission to relax and enjoy the moments that come. It will make for a much more joyful home.
SEEK GENUINE REST
You are accepted by God because of Jesus’ sacrifice, NOT by anything you can do/have done/or anything that anybody thinks of you. Do not allow current feelings, recent accomplishments, or other’s opinions of you to sway you from this truth day to day. Out of rest in this, will flow faith that is loving and active.
EMBRACE YOUR LOVE OF TRENDS
You are not a minimalist/capsule wardrobe kind of girl and that is OK. Go for the trendy, high-waisted, wide-leg denim, your kids will appreciate the laugh in a few years.
GIVE YOUR BODY A BREAK
Your body has miraculously grown two humans and gone back to even better shape than pre-babies (give or take a few deflated areas, ha!) Yes, you grew up in a society that told you that you were either too big or too small, never just right. But the worst culprit of the body shaming you have endured the last 15 years is YOU. Eat well, exercise well, live well. STOP BODY SHAMING. It ends with you, do not pass this on to your children.
READ MORE, CONSUME LESS INFORMATION/ENTERTAINMENT
In the amount of time that it takes you to read a book, you can consume snippets of hundreds of different things on the internet that you WON’T REMEMBER! Choose wisely. Mindless consumption of TV has always been a hinderance to your growth, be mindful of what/when you are choosing to watch.
The TO DO LIST will ALWAYS be there (why?!?!) but your kids will not always be little. Everyday they are a little bit older and a little bit smarter. AND they see you choose those to do’s over them, time and time again. This is your year to change that. Say yes more than you say no. Involve them in the to do’s every chance you can, even if it will take you longer and likely involve a mess. Apply this with your hubby as well. Play a game instead of watching a show after the kids are in bed. Flirt via text when you are apart. Welcome his affection. Tackle house projects together. Find hobbies that involve you both (other than shopping!) Dream together.
GET YOUR ISH TOGETHER
Now is the time to stop feeling guilty about being disorganized and late ALL THE TIME, (thank you for your patience real life friends!) just do something about it! Now that you have 4 people’s schedules to manage, you can’t afford to continue in your haphazard approach to the calendar. This is adding unnecessary stress to your life and setting your little people up to be much the same. Plan on someone needing to poop on the way out the door, don’t try to run four different errands during nap time, do whatever you can the night before in order to get out of the house in the morning (including coffee for yourself!) This may seem harsh, but it will make room for rest and greater enjoyment of the things you are trying to get out of the house for.
It looks like REST is the theme of my 29th year (or 30th, if you look at it that way.) I look forward to looking back and seeing how God has grown me in each of these areas at my next birthday.
We had fun visiting with Uncle JoJo for a bit! Life sure is interesting with these guys, I am one lucky (read: blessed) sister/wife/mama!!
Are you approaching a milestone birthday? What are your hopes for growth in the coming year?! Comment below!